So, a friend of mine and her boyfriend just broke up. When he told me the story, I got to thinking. Why do people lie? He had told her he didn't mind if she talked to her ex-boyfriend, but he lied about it anyway. I don't understand this concept.
Sure, it might save a few hurt feelings, but the truth always comes around and bites you in the ass. There's no escaping it. If you've been lucky thus far, be careful. Karma is a bitch, and it will find you.
I'm not saying I've never lied. I've lied a lot, and when I look back on the things I've lied about, I just can't understand why I did it. I always ended up having to spill the truth. When you lie, you aren't letting people help you, whether you lie to a friend, teacher, parent, or significant other. Love is about communication. About honesty. That's the way it should be.
You can love anyone, and if you can, that means you can hurt anyone as well. Once you have let a person into your heart, they can hurt you, and vice versa. Sometimes, you can have the lingering feeling that someone you truly care about is hiding things from you. Maybe it's true. Maybe it's not. Yet you must continue to let people in, let them have pieces of you. There is a multitude of people who can hurt you, so just live for today and love everybody.
If you cannot do that, and you feel like you must lie to get by, then you are not living. That's what I think.
Yeah- and the thing is- it hurts more people than YOU when you lie.
ReplyDeleteI was lied to by a LOT of people- Some people I never in a million years would have thought would have any reason to EVER lie to me- and it takes me forever to trust ANYONE about anything now.
And that's not fair, is it?